Life Balance = ______.

LIVE: Many of my family and friends know that I am constantly striving for that perfect balance in my life in all aspects – spiritual, physical, mental. I want to be super-woman, do it all, be it all! haha. I want to have a successful career, a great family, be a great wife, be spiritually growing in the gospel, live an active lifestyle, travel (a lot!), help others, be a friend to all, and still get some sleep now and then ha ;), and the list goes on and on! We all have the same amount of hours in a day, how do we find that balance with day to day activities? What IS life balance, is there such a thing? ha.

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LEARN: Many times, I have to check myself and realize that I can only run so fast! In talking with some of my family and friends about this I’ve learned that if my priorities are the gospel and my family, then everything else will fall into place! I have to set priorities, is it more important that I get the dishes done one night? Or that I talk with my family I haven’t spoken to in a few days? Now, many times for me I feel like things have to get done, right then – right there, and maybe they do depending on the scenario, BUT what I’ve been learning is to not sweat the small stuff. Do your best, get your priorities in order, and you will live a balanced and fulfilled life. Sounds pretty easy huh? haha 😉 jk.

I felt as this is a topic I am so intrigued by, I would share some insight. Excerpts from this message are from a BYU – I commencement address by Elder Donald L. Hallstrom of the Presidency of the Seventy of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints back in July. He says, “Leading a balanced life is difficult for many. There is not an exact pattern for everyone, and even our own blueprint may change during different phases of our life. However, seeking balance—giving adequate time and effort to each of those things that really matter—is vital to our success in mortal probation. There are certain fundamental responsibilities we cannot neglect without serious consequence.”

He later shares four essential aspects to focus on in our lives.

1. Love for Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. He says, “Love for Him is the supreme motivation to keep ‘in the right way.’ Every other aspect of our life is enhanced when we truly love our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ, as we will love ourselves and others more completely. Answers to our most challenging problems are found only when we love and have faith in Them.”

2. Care for family. “For many, properly caring for our family is the first area of compromise when other demands arise, as the results of neglect are not always immediately apparent,” he said. “Nurturing the husband-wife relationship and building a spiritual home requires men and women of vision and commitment.”

3. Service to the Lord. “Our time spent in Church and community service may vary during different periods of our life depending on specific callings we may receive and our family circumstances. However, our desire and our availability to serve should never waver.”

4. Life’s temporal work. “Although temporal work is temporary, it is still important as a support to the other, more long-lasting aspects of life and provides valuable service to others.”

Check here for the link to the talk: Four Priorities to Balance in a Busy Life

Another resource I found online is from WebMD. Here are some of the points made that I really liked –

1. Build downtime into your schedule. “When you plan your week, make it a point to schedule time with your family and friends, and activities that help you recharge.” I like the example shared of the actor and TV producer who would wake up three hours before leaving for work to exercise and spend time with his wife and baby. That’s awesome! My mom often did that with my sister and I growing up, I think that’s a valid point. Wake up early and get started with your day!

2. Drop activities that SAP your time and energy. “Take stock of activities that don’t enhance your career or personal life, and minimize the time you spend on them.” Examples such as spending an excessive amount of time on social media websites or browsing the internet, we should be more conscientious as to what we are doing and how we spend our time.

3. Rethink your errands. “Consider whether you can outsource any of your time-consuming household chores or errands. Could you order your groceries online and have them delivered? Hire a kid down the street to mow your lawn? Have your dry cleaning picked up and dropped off at your home or office? Order your stamps online so you don’t have to go to the post office? Even if you’re on a tight budget, you may discover that the time you’ll save will make it worth it.”

4. Get moving. “It’s hard to make time for exercise when you have a jam-packed schedule, but it may ultimately help you get more done by boosting your energy level and ability to concentrate.” I know this to be true! Some days are super hectic and when I don’t make an honest effort to get my workout in, I can tell. Exercise, exercise, exercise! :)

5. Remember that a little relaxation goes along way. “Don’t assume that you need to make big changes to bring more balance to your life. .. Set realistic goals, like leaving the office earlier 1 night per week. .. Slowly build more activities into your schedule that are important to you.”

Check here for the link: 5 Tips

If I could add anything to this it would be that finding life balance takes energy, good nutrition, and being aware of what we are consuming. My parents have always provided my sister and I with nutritional products that helped us live well and be the best version of ourselves. It’s hard to find life balance, and DO things, if we are not feeling physically, mentally, spiritually well! Whether it’s exercising and consuming the right foods and nutritional products for physical and mental health, or praying a little bit more for our spiritual well-being, whatever it may be – we need to take ACTION. Nothing in our lives will change if we are not willing to change a little bit ourselves.

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BECOME: Pondering this topic, learning constantly, I am going to strive to live a little better each day. To make changes and improvements in my life, because that is how I know I will grow and move forward. I need to remember whats REALLY important in my life and in the decisions I make. I’m so grateful for the opportunity we have to learn throughout the course of our lives, to learn from others and to share those moments with family and friends, to educate ourselves, and to just do the very best we can. I know life balance is something that I will always be working on as the seasons in our life change, but to know where my priorities lie should always be constant :)

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I need to remember that I can go-go-go but that I also need to take a breather now and then for myself, I need to re-sharpen the saw! I remember a story shared by a co-worker about “Sharpening the Saw.” I’m going to do my best to re-phrase it, may miss parts of the story and this will be very brief – but this is what I got out of it! :)  … So one gentleman was sawing a piece of wood and the blade of the saw just kept getting duller and duller. He had a lot of work that needed to be done, he was working long hours, and he felt like his progress was getting slower and slower for some reason the faster he tried to saw. One co-worker suggested he sharpen his saw, that if he took a break to do this he would cut the wood faster and more efficiently. .. Sometimes, I think we do just need to take that step back and see that we need to take a quick break for ourselves – and by doing so, we will accomplish so much more! :)

So now I ask, what does life balance mean to you? What do you do to help you find that overall balance in your life, what are your priorities?

To Thrive.

Alright, my first official blog post. The pressure’s on 😉 ha. So I was road tripping back home today and was pondering what I wanted to share starting out. Given some of the recent events that have occurred over the last few days and months, I would like to talk briefly about money, that’s right honey! haha. (PS – I really like this quote, “Never Get So Busy Making a Living, That You Forget to Make a Life!”)

LIVE:These last few months have been crazy busy (and expensive)! Definitely life changing to say the least :) Not every day you get married to your very best friend who happens to live in another state! :) With that came a lot of life changes. I moved to Colorado, left my previous employer and friends, and am starting a brand new adventure in life! Not to mention, my husband and I had three wedding receptions in three different states ….. you think I’m crazy, I know. It was my idea haha 😉 … and went on a two week vacation – one week outside the US and another week in the US! Definitely a good time, but we have been very busy! Over the last few months we were also moving my belongings from various states, road tripping with a U-haul, and dealing with some major vehicle repair issues! We also had our dryer break which needed to be replaced in addition to some other major unforeseen expenses.

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Wedding Invitations For Days!

 

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Wedding Day! :)

 

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Wedding Reception x 3! :)

 

LEARN: Given all of the events that have taken place over these last few months, I’ve learned quite a bit. I’ve learned that weddings can be expensive! (hello, right? ha) Trying to budget for one of the biggest days/times in your life was hard, really hard! But that’s what my husband and I did. I continue to learn, and re-learn, that budgets are key and prioritizing what’s a want and whats a need is crucial. Does that mean I’m perfect at it? I try, but no, I am continually learning and improving. I also learned that moving personal belongings from various states adds up fast! Especially when I have to fill up a vehicle with premium gas (Ouch! but I love my baby! haha). I’m grateful my parents taught me the concept of saving, as well as paying tithing, because sometimes the most unexpected things happen! If you would have asked me a year ago today if I would be married and relocated to Colorado, well, I may have thought you were crazy :) haha jk. But for reals, I’ve learned that life happens everyday, and sometimes a WHOLE lotta life happens and we have to be prepared for it as best we can! Financially prepared! Take that as you may, but I think even in regards to a natural disaster, relief, retirement, rainy day… I just know that with so much of my life, as well as my husband’s life, transitioning and changing this is something that I have learned a lot about. I appreciate this life lesson and reminder to be prepared!

Enjoying life :)

Enjoying life :)

 

Roadtrips. Lots and lots of road trips :) And life lessons along the way!

Roadtrips. Lots and lots of road trips :) And life lessons along the way!

 

BECOME: Ok, so what does all this mean to me? To you?! What’s the point right? Well, with these life changes I’ve had and as I am getting older … well, hopefully not too old 😉 ha…. I am self adopting this motto: “I want to thrive! Not just survive.” How many of us are living paycheck to paycheck? Why is that?! Before you know it all your money is gone, bills, bills, and more bills! (Thank you, Destiny’s Child haha). That’s stressful! And to put it simply, no fun. No fun at all. Seriously though, I know we all go through ups and downs in this life, we all have different challenges, but personally for me I am determined that my finances will not be one of them. I feel very blessed in my life, and for that I am continually grateful. Does that mean I don’t work hard or worry about the “now” and the “future?!” No, of course not. No matter if my husband and I were earning $40,000 a year or $500,000+ a year, everyone needs a budget of some sort, in some way. I think we all want to live comfortable lives, one of the life lessons my parents taught me is to live within your means however, to budget responsibly, and to work hard, invest, and save! And to pay tithing of course :) While I’m starting a new job in my professional field, I’m also supplementing income part time, and my husband is working full time as well. I am so excited because we are working towards our personal and financial goals, towards financial freedom now and in the years ahead! Hard work pays off and  I’m so excited to be living the American dream, to have that opportunity, to learn to save and be prepared for the expected, as well as the unexpected! I want to live life to the fullest and give back to others! By thriving my husband and I will be able to do just that! :) For that, I am grateful! Today’s lesson learned? BECOME A THRIVER, NOT JUST A SURVIVOR :)

Welcome!

Hello everyone! Welcome and thank you for visiting my page. I hope you find the information soon to be posted helpful, insightful, inspirational, and fun! The main theme I will be focusing on with this page resolves around enjoying life! For me personally, this boils down to learning how to become the best version of ourselves. How do we do it? I like the phrase, ‘Live, Learn, Become.’ What do our daily actions entail, what are we learning, who are we becoming or have a greater desire to be?

This life is a full of ups and downs, but I believe there are great blessings and opportunities in each new day. I want to ensure I am taking full advantage of this so that I can live life to the fullest, without any regrets, and contribute positively to my family, friends, community, and the world :) I felt strongly this is a great platform to self-discovery, self-improvement, continual learning, and overall personal growth and development.

I hope this page helps not only me but others as well live meaningful, purposeful days; discover our passions; live to our potential; change lives; be kinder; improve daily; find peace; be happy; be healthy; and overall just enjoy our lives to the fullest! :)

Let’s get started!